5 YEAR ANNIVERSARY VOW RENEWAL + TIPS FOR A GREAT MARRIAGE

Good evening readers! I hope this post has found you well, and happy, and if not I hope that maybe it will bring a smile or two to your face.

Marriage is incredible. It is hard, trying, and such a blessing all at the same time. My husband and I have been together for 8 years! I feel too young to be able to say that. We met in high school, but it was not your typical high school sweetheart romance. See, I was two grades younger than Sam. When we think back on all the ways we were intertwined in our lives, it is so crazy. We were seriously meant to be together. Before I even knew him, I dated his friend, we were almost always at the same place at the same time, and so many other crazy coincidences!

Here is a quick story of how we met:

We were in separate gym classes, but at the same time, during Sam’s senior year. His class would play volleyball, while mine would run (or in my case walk…) a mile around the track above the gym. My good friend Kiana knows that I spent that whole time staring at him in his short purple shorts and SUPER long hippie hair. It was total lust at first sight.

Then there was a  time he chased me and my friends down the mall to ask me what kind of earrings he should wear (insert ALL the laugh emoji’s here. We were SO COOL). We never really talked much and then after he graduated, he contacted me and we have been in love ever since!

This past month, we celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary with the renewal of our vows. It was so beautiful, simple, and sweet! So much has changed over the course of these past five years, and our family is complete, it just felt like a great time to say new vows with entering this next phase of life.

dsc_1626dsc_1654dsc_1665dsc_1672dsc_1674dsc_1682dsc_1684

dsc_1715
How beautiful is that cake!? And it was soooo yummy too! Almond poppy seed flavor!

dsc_1720

dsc_1726
My whole world, my whole heart, my home
dsc_1730
Such a handsome little model! And always holding food haha

dsc_1742dsc_1745dsc_1750

dsc_1750dsc_1755dsc_1758

dsc_1763
Oh my gosh! Her smile will melt your heart!

dsc_1766dsc_1767

DRESS: SHOP STEVIE / SHOES: (sold out) SIMILAR / AMELIA’S DRESS: TARGET / AMELIA’S FLATS: TARGET / CALUM’S SHIRT: TARGET / BOWTIES: SPOILED ROTTEN / SAM’S SHIRT: VAN HEUSEN / CAKE PROVIDED BY: HERITAGE WEDDING CAKES

(Side note: Our cake was SO good! Cindy from Heritage Wedding Cakes is incredible! She made our wedding cake, first anniversary cake, and now this one! If you are a Utah bride-to-be you have to see her for a tasting! She is amazing and has the most delicious cakes and unique flavors. Plus, she is the kindest person to work with. Thank you for everything, Cindy!)

3 TIPS FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE:

Tip #1 We have been through so much in our 5 years of marriage. Any married couple out there knows how hard the first year can be, and for us it really was. We were young, stubborn, and still working on communicating properly. I need to thank my amazing aunt and uncle for always being our one and only example of what a God-based, healthy, loving marriage is, because without them, we never would have had that example.

That would be my first tip to a newly married couple. Find another couple that you are close with to be your example of what marriage should be. Trust me, you will need them to learn and see that marriage is worth every difficult moment, especially in the beginning. I feel so blessed to know in my heart that Sam and I will be that for our children someday.

Tip #2 An incredible thing in our marriage is that at the center is Jesus. We are Christian and truly believe that having a Christ-centered marriage can get us through it all. We turn to God in all our needs, and for all our graces. He keeps us both strong, and our marriage even stronger. For this, I am eternally grateful.

Tip #3 Communicate. You’ll save yourselves from 1,000 petty arguments just by talking. Sam and I literally talk about everything (like staying up until midnight last night talking about Wild Kratts and Sophia the First…) so we are always sharing our worries, fears, joys, and anything else. I know exactly how my husband thinks, and same for him. We are always on the same page, because we are constantly discussing everything. We are best friends, and it really makes our marriage that much stronger. But it hasn’t always been so easy. Communicating was always my personal biggest struggle, and something I still have to work on all the time.

3 GREAT BOOKS FOR COUPLES:

The Love Dare

The 5 Love Languages

Love and Respect (also has a workbook!)

What is your biggest tip for married couples? Please share them with us in the comments, or on my Instagram!

Thank you all SO much for reading, and following!

xx

MOMMY STYLE MONDAY: QUALITY TIME

This week’s inspiration is date night. Hmm, date nights. Do I even remember what that is? Joking. I totally don’t. However, for now I am okay with it, And so is my husband.

I’ll be honest, I was really scared to write this post, because people can be cruel, and when it comes to parenting, no parent wants to be judged or scrutinized for what they feel is best for their family. You would not believe the things people have said to me over this subject before, and I am honestly still in shock about the most recent.

It’s kind of crazy to me how incredibly shocking it is to so many people that we don’t leave our kids yet with anyone but each other. We aren’t ready (yes, we. My husband feels strongly about our parenting choices). I know this is different from the norm. I know for many it wouldn’t work, and that’s okay.

I have a really good, solid marriage. We both know we would just be stressing and missing our kids if we ever left them. I know so many people feel that is wrong, but it is RIGHT for us. We decided on our parenting before we had kids that when they were completely verbal, and going to the bathroom on their own, then we would leave them with a family member. Thankfully, we have been blessed with never having to change our choice on this because of an emergency or anything.

We go on “dates” as a family. We go out for a meal, we get a coffee, we go the farmers market we love, seriously anything. And I know that it all is a normal family outing, but we make everything count.

We spend every evening together after the kids go to bed. Not spending alone together certainly wouldn’t work, so we are always so grateful for this time together every night. We cherish the quite and each other and it’s the best way to end the day.

We also steal moments. All the moments. Each one is so important. Every nap time, every time we pass each other in the room, every second the kids are occupied, we are taking every moment to connect. We talk constantly and about everything. We make each other laugh non-stop.

I really don’t want to sound like I am just bragging about how amazing my marriage and my husband is, but I kind of can’t help it. We are best friends. We love our life and we love being with our whole little family. It’s how we run. It’s how we work. And through it all we have kept our love and connection as deep and as strong as ever.

Thank you so much for reading! Dates for some parents look different. Here’s what it looks like for us!

It’s clearly hard for our pictures not to suffer sometimes haha! But it’s real!

Be sure you check out the other mom’s posts on their date nights!

Kiana at Glitter & Donuts

Madeline at CaseyLand

Britt at My Little Sunshine

Juli at Journey of J^3

Beverly at What a Day 

Erica at Good Job Momma

Kristen at Eat Play and Go