Top: Target / leggings: H&M / boots: Nordstrom / necklace: Rocksbox (code: tessamariebatesxoxo for one free month!)

Calling all mama’s! Momming is a HARD job. We give so much and often forget to refill our own cups, which makes life overwhelming. As a mom I am so hard on myself, and I know I am not the only one. There is so much pressure to be perfect. It’s too much.

I have had a really hard year with this. Becoming a mom of two, suffering from postpartum anxiety and depression, and everything else life brings I literally stopped taking care of myself. And it wasn’t okay. Thankfully my sweet husband helped me (and continues to help me everyday with these things) and encouraged me to change that. Some things felt like work, some just didn’t work out, but I have finally figured out what works for me and I would love to share it with all of you!

There is so much I could say, but to keep it simple I will go through my TOP 3 tips to fill your cup as a mama.

  1. Wake up before your kids. You may or may not be a morning person, but either way I think this is necessary for a good start to each day! Especially for a stay at home mom like myself. It’s hard when you wake up with your kids, and have to jump straight into diaper changes, making breakfast, etc. It makes for a smoother, happier day when I get even just 15 minutes in the morning to get a cup of coffee, get dressed, get breakfast started, and anything else (depending on how much time I have) before it’s time to jump right into taking care of the babies.
  2. Do something completely for yourself. Something that you love, something that makes you happy. For me, it’s writing. I LOVE to write. I started this blog because I love writing. I wrote a short story and published in on Amazon eBooks, which was so much fun. I am currently a few chapters away from being finished with my first novel as well! It’s so important that I make time to write. It’s my outlet, my passion, and something that makes me me.  I also go to coffee every Sunday morning with my best friend. It’s pretty much my only time away from home by myself and it’s a good reset to start the week. Whatever your thing is, don’t let it go. Give it the time, make it a priority. We deserve it.
  3. Get Ready. I don’t love to get ready, but if I take time to shower, get dressed, and do my hair (I seriously only wear makeup 30% of the time. If that.) I feel better, I am more productive, and the day is just better.

What are your tips for filling your cup? Please share them with me! I am always going to be working on this and love hearing what other mama’s do.

Thanks so much for reading/following!




  1. Getting ready really makes all the difference for me! I like reading, so I try to take some time to read a few chapters in a book. It’s a nice relaxing escape from the day to day grind! I need to work on the whole waking up before your kids thing… 🙂


Comments are closed.