This week’s inspiration is date night. Hmm, date nights. Do I even remember what that is? Joking. I totally don’t. However, for now I am okay with it, And so is my husband.
I’ll be honest, I was really scared to write this post, because people can be cruel, and when it comes to parenting, no parent wants to be judged or scrutinized for what they feel is best for their family. You would not believe the things people have said to me over this subject before, and I am honestly still in shock about the most recent.
It’s kind of crazy to me how incredibly shocking it is to so many people that we don’t leave our kids yet with anyone but each other. We aren’t ready (yes, we. My husband feels strongly about our parenting choices). I know this is different from the norm. I know for many it wouldn’t work, and that’s okay.
I have a really good, solid marriage. We both know we would just be stressing and missing our kids if we ever left them. I know so many people feel that is wrong, but it is RIGHT for us. We decided on our parenting before we had kids that when they were completely verbal, and going to the bathroom on their own, then we would leave them with a family member. Thankfully, we have been blessed with never having to change our choice on this because of an emergency or anything.
We go on “dates” as a family. We go out for a meal, we get a coffee, we go the farmers market we love, seriously anything. And I know that it all is a normal family outing, but we make everything count.
We spend every evening together after the kids go to bed. Not spending alone together certainly wouldn’t work, so we are always so grateful for this time together every night. We cherish the quite and each other and it’s the best way to end the day.
We also steal moments. All the moments. Each one is so important. Every nap time, every time we pass each other in the room, every second the kids are occupied, we are taking every moment to connect. We talk constantly and about everything. We make each other laugh non-stop.
I really don’t want to sound like I am just bragging about how amazing my marriage and my husband is, but I kind of can’t help it. We are best friends. We love our life and we love being with our whole little family. It’s how we run. It’s how we work. And through it all we have kept our love and connection as deep and as strong as ever.
Thank you so much for reading! Dates for some parents look different. Here’s what it looks like for us!
It’s clearly hard for our pictures not to suffer sometimes haha! But it’s real!
Be sure you check out the other mom’s posts on their date nights!
Kiana at Glitter & Donuts